Sunday, December 24, 2023

Christmas thoughts

 

Just a few thoughts on Christmas Eve. 

 

The birth of the Savior was forecast many generations before it happened.  Scripture scholars of the time recognized the signs and expected Jesus’ birth.  We know that is true because of the arrival of the “Wise” men.  We are not told who they were, but we were told they searched the skies anxiously seeking the sign of the “new” star.  They came from the east.  We are not told where in the east they began their search.  It could have been today’s Jordan, Iraq, Saudi Arabia, or perhaps even Iran.  We know that it took many months for them to arrive to the “house where the young lad was.”  They didn’t see Jesus in the grotto where he was born.

Because of the nature of prophecies concerning the coming of the Savior, whose mother would be named Mary, most families in the Tribe of Judah named their first born daughter “Mary” hoping their daughter would be the one to give birth to the Savior.  We know little of the chosen Mary’s family.  We suppose that they taught their children out of the scriptures.  They likely were pretty firm in their understanding of those scriptures.  They had to be so in order to raise a daughter worthy of receiving, and giving birth to, the Son of the Living God.  Mary was willing to endure the endless criticisms of the neighbors who had to have noticed that she was pregnant but still unwed.  Some scholars have expressed their opinion that Mary may have been as young as 14 years old.  However, the scriptures do not give us her age.  Those same scholars opine that Joseph was a man of about 40 years old when he married Mary.  There is no scriptural reference to his age.

Joseph, also, must have been devout in his worship of God.  He also was firm in his understanding of scripture.  His was an awesome responsibility to receive Mary as his wife, shielding her from the nasty rumors and chatter of the neighbors, raising Jesus as his own, and helping to prepare Jesus to be who he would become to be.  We know little of Joseph, but we know he received revelation from God on at least two occasions.  We know, therefore, that he was a righteous man.  There is mention of Joseph during Jesus’ ministry, “Is he not the son of Joseph, the carpenter”.  But, there is no information as to what happened to him.  He would have been about 50 years old when Jesus began his ministry.

As for the shepherds:  These shepherds were caring for temple sheep.  They are assumed to be Levites, but younger in age, still learning how to become priests serving in the temple. The angels appeared to them to announce the birth of the Savior and they were instructed to go and see and then spread the news of Jesus’ birth to all they knew.  They would have told the High Priest in the temple and the members of the Sanhedrin, though most of them would have disregarded the news because what would these young inexperienced scoundrels know of spiritual events?

Much as the peoples of the American Continent, these experiences and prophecies were little regarded for most folks.  Judea was expecting a military savior who would help them throw off the yoke of Roman occupiers.  So the birth of Jesus, the Son of God, the Father and Mary a mere mortal was ludicrous to the people.  Little did they know what that obscure birth would mean to the world.

Many would say that Joseph and Mary were poor, but we have no indication of that.  We know that Joseph was prepared to stay in an inn.  We know that he was a carpenter.  We don’t know the social status of carpenters of that era.  We know that Joseph had the means to move the family to Egypt and then back to Nazareth later.  He wanted to return to Jerusalem but was afraid of notoriety when he learned that Herod’s son inherited the throne, so he diverted to Nazareth and fulfilled the prophecy that indicated that Jesus would be from Nazareth.

 

 

Thursday, October 5, 2023

The Family Plan

 


The Family Plan

We sat on her mother’s couch visiting about our evening.  I knew I wanted to ask her to marry me, but I was so worried that she might laugh me out of the house that I stammered and delayed.  I told her that I wanted to tell her something, but I was afraid.  She used every wile she could think of to get me to speak up and eventually I did.  I said, “I think....”   And paused, very nervous.

“What do you think?” she asked.

“Well, I don’t know if I want to tell you what I think.”  I was extremely unsure of myself.

“I’ll wait until you do.”  Now the pressure was on me.

“I think I want you to be my wife,”  I finally got around to saying.

Oh boy!   What a response that elicited.  There was a little scream and she ran out of the room.  What had I done?  I wondered if I had offended her.  I wondered if she was gone and had left me sitting on her mother’s couch.  I wondered if she’d be back.  I wondered if I had made a complete fool of myself.

What really happened is that she ran to the back of the house to tell her parents that I had proposed to her.  But I didn’t know that.  I was bewildered.  I didn’t know what to do.  Should I leave?  Should I apologize and say I would never do it again?  My thoughts were running amuck. 

Then she returned.  She had a smile a mile wide.  She was bouncing.  She was beaming.  She jumped onto the couch next to me and yelled “YES!”   I still hadn’t asked her to marry me.  I had only told her what I wanted.  I never did propose, officially.  She, and I guess I, just assumed we were now engaged.  Whew!  I could breath again.  My sweaty palms could dry.  My anxiety could quiet.  My nervousness could quell.  I was in love!  

From that time on, I couldn’t stay away from her house.  I was supposed to be taking evening classes at the local community college, but I didn’t find the time because I was always at her house.  I needed to be close to her.  We went on dates in the evening and talked and talked and talked.  We talked through the night sometimes.  We couldn’t get enough of each other.

We were both 21; both working part time.  I tutored English as a Second Language for Spanish speaking middle school students.  She taught chorus in several elementary schools.  Neither of was financially prepared for marriage.  Both of us thought things would work out.  Neither of us understood the pressures family life would bring.  But we knew we loved each other.  We knew we had much in common.  She was an accompanist of great skill.  I was a conductor of mediocre skill.  We both loved music.   We knew we wanted a family, but we never talked about how many children we would welcome into our family.  Secretly I thought 4 would be enough.  Secretly she thought 7 or 8 would be about right.  But that discussion never entered into our conversation together until our family was complete.  Then we talked about what we were thinking about those years ago.

Early in our marriage we were advised to plan our family wisely.  Not the number of children, but how to prepare them to be good, profitable citizens.  This article is an attempt to describe how we approached our family’s plan.  It is my hope that it will be of benefit to those who read it.

“Preparation”

In our minds, preparation is one of the most important concepts of our “Family Plan”.  We sat together and we considered how we would raise our children.  We are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  We knew we would raise our children in the Church and that we would follow the advise our church leaders give to us.  However, it seemed to us that there was not much instruction as to how to accomplish the advise given.  So we began to lay a plan.

We decided we needed to prepare our children in four areas: Educationally, Emotionally, Spiritually, Physically.  We were not willing to advocate our responsibilities to other entities, but we would permit them to assist us in raising our children.   We looked for the talents each might develop, and we searched for the current interest of each. 

Each year, at the beginning of the year, we would “retreat”.  We would leave our children with a family member and check into a motel with our computer and books and notebooks and set a plan for the year for each of our children. The first year was pretty easy.  We didn’t have any children as yet.  Then as each child came, we prepared a plan for each.  The following chapters will offer samples of the plans we made for our children based each year.  

Some of our plans were more interesting.  We had to allow for the “special” needs of some of our children.  Some of our annual plans were very generic.  As our children got older, our plans became less detailed, because they each began to present their own characters and our overall goals began to be met.    

Having said all that, our goals were good, but our follow-through was not stellar.